Tito and I have been married for 10 years!

Years ago, long before we were married, we were watching the movie Paranormal Activity. In the horror movie trope, there’s always that one person that doesn’t believe the place is haunted. Tito turned to me and jokingly said “babe, if you ever tell me the place is haunted, that’s fine. We’ll move”.

Over the years, that grew into what we call the “Paranormal Activity Protocol”, and it’s saved us from many potential fights. The point is, if it’s important to him, then I don’t need to get it. But I DO need to respect it. You think it’s haunted? Good enough for me. And vice versa. 

Today, if I could give one piece of advice to the world, that would be it. If something is super important to someone you care for, and you don’t get it, it’s cool. You don’t need to. The other person’s feelings are more important than proving yourself right. 

In a world divided by political lines, colour lines, and economic lines, where we consume polarized media in echo chambers seeded with incendiary bot accounts… it’s so so important to just listen to other humans and try to respect their side. Try to accept that it matters to them, and let that be enough for you. Because that human connection is what will ultimately save us and if we lose it, we’ve lost everything. 

Tito, you are the love of my life. The engineer to my artist, the adventurer by my side, in the mountains, in the sea, or just watching Star Trek. I can’t wait to see what the next ten years bring. And in the words of our beloved officiant John Joseph Mastandrea, here’s to life, here’s to love, here’s to you.